Sex therapists believe if you get rid of the idea that anal play is a ‘gay area’, a lot more people would be open to a lot more pleasure.
This comes in the light of a new study that reveals that many men are using dildos, butt plugs and other sex toys and objects while masturbating.
Psychologist Allison Kirshbaum, based in Albuquerque, New Mexico surveyed hundreds of men on their past masturbatory habits, according to Mel Magazine.
She found 24% of all men – straight and gay – had inserted an object during their self-love session, with 35.3% engaging in nipple play. 66.4% had rubbed their genitals on a surface while 47.7% had used a shower jet.
If you use the generally used statistic of 6-10% of men being gay or bisexual, that’s at least 14-18% of straight guys simulating being penetrated during their masturbation.
Kian De La Cour, a certified sexological bodyworker based in the UK, said he was not surprised by the study’s findings.
‘It’s very common. A lot of men have heard about it, so it’s safer to engage in self anal-play than to engage in it with another person,’ he told Gay Star News.
‘If I’m giving it to myself, it doesn’t have the cultural stigma attached to that area.’
He said it has always been the case that many men have a fluid sexuality, and ever since the Kinsey studies in the 50s, it has been found that many straight people have had same-sex encounters but lie about it.
‘People like to believe they have a unified sexuality but, in reality, we’re complex and our sexuality is on many levels. We shouldn’t be afraid to enjoy what we enjoy.’
‘If we can talk about sexuality and not attach stigma to certain areas, it would be better. This study will hopefully encourage other people to try it and access more pleasure through exploring themselves.’