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Former pro soccer player, still active in a semi-pro team, comes out as gay

‘If I can help at least one individual who needs guidance, support, or even a friend to speak with, I’m here.’

Former pro soccer player, still active in a semi-pro team, comes out as gay
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Adam McCabe still plays for a semi-professional team - and also works as a model

A former professional soccer player has come out as gay.

Adam McCabe has played profesional and semi-professional soccer across three continents.

He’s played for teams in England (3.5 years), Thailand (six months) and Slovakia (six months), as well as in the college team at Vassar College.

He is currently playing with the Georgia Revolution out of Atlanta, a semi-professional team in the National Premier Soccer League and also works as a model.

And now he’s come out and shared his story in a powerful essay for Meanwhiler.

‘While I was playing soccer at a younger age, I was not out to my teammates. I did not really even think about my sexuality until the end of high school and beginning of college (around 19 years old),’ he wrote.

‘Soccer was the most important thing; it was all that I thought about. I lived, breathed, ate and slept soccer.

And I was not going to let anything, like a relationship or my sexuality, get in the way of my goals and dreams.’

But while also tells of the hardships that came with it – the locker room talk, where his lack of experience with women became obvious and made McCabe uncomfortable, and the struggle to not let his secret slip – he said he was never forced to keep silent.

‘I was never told to hide my sexual preference while playing in the United States, Europe, or Asia. However, as a gay athlete your natural instinct is to hide this from your teammates, fans, and coaches,’ he said.

‘The language that is used during practice, in the locker room, and on the pitch is extremely masculine and at times vulgar.

‘I have heard teammates use homophobic language both in the soccer realm and in daily life. It causes you to really pay attention to your surroundings and debate every action as a closeted athlete.

‘I was afraid to share my sexuality based off of what I had heard my teammates say. Whether joking or not, these words are cemented in your brain and they shape the way you act towards and around your teammates.’

None of McCabe’s teammates knew, and he said it was in part because he was ‘ashamed, nervous, and scared to be this way’.

Speaking to OutSports, McCabe said he ‘never felt whole’ along the way, until he came back to Atlanta and took a break from the game.

‘I have grown and changed so much since my move back and now I am at a place to help other LGBTQ athletes who may be struggling,’ he said.

‘If I can help at least one individual who needs guidance, support, or even a friend to speak with, I’m here.’


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