Cynthia Nixon says she made a choice to be gay

'I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice'

Cynthia Nixon says she made a choice to be gay
23 January 2012

Cynthia Nixon surprised many back in 2004 when she became involved with Christine Marinoni after ending a 15-year relationship with Danny Mozes with whom she has two children.

Nixon, back on Broadway in the play Wit, has some strong views on her midlife switch from men to a woman.

'I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line ‘I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.’ And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice,' the actress tells The New York Times.

'I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me,' she adds. 'A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if it’s a choice, then we could opt out. I say it doesn’t matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not.'

The Times reports that Nixon's face was red and her arms were waving while discussing the topic.

'As you can tell, I am very annoyed about this issue,' she said. 'Why can’t it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate? It seems we’re just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I don’t think that they should define the terms of the debate. I also feel like people think I was walking around in a cloud and didn’t realize I was gay, which I find really offensive. I find it offensive to me, but I also find it offensive to all the men I’ve been out with.'

Gay activist and blogger

He writes: 'What she means is that she's bisexual, and doesn't quite get that most people aren't able to have sexual romantic relationships with both men and women because they're just not into both genders. She is into both genders.  And that's fine.  But she needs to learn how to choose her words better, because she just fell into a right-wing trap, willingly.  When the religious right says it's a choice, they mean you quite literally choose your sexual orientation, you can change it at will, and that's bull.'

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