An LGBT charity that London can be proud of
GSN meets the team behind London Friend – the UK’s oldest LGBT charity.
Small and compact Matthew Halliday and big and bearish Monty Moncrieff are a study in contrasts in many ways, but both are equally passionate about the work of LGBT charity London Friend, which has been supporting London’s LGBT community for over 40 years.
London Friend was established in 1972. It’s worth reflecting on what life was like for gay men and lesbians at that time and why there was a need for an organisation such as London Friend.
- 1967: the Sexual Offences Act partially decriminalized homosexuality in England and Wales
- 1970: the first gay liberation march is held in New York
- 1973: the American Psychiatric Association removes homosexuality from its manual of mental disorders
At that time there was little sense of LGBT community – while there was some collaboration between gay men and lesbians, it’s only in recent years that there seems to have been enough commonality between these different but equally vulnerable people to be able to describe them collectively as LGBT (even though, as Moncrieff points out, there are some ongoing tensions in this regard).
Leading much of the advocacy for legislative protection of gay men and lesbians during the early 1970s was a group called the Campaign for Homosexual Equality.
‘As the Campaign for Homosexual Equality was essentially a political group…’ explains Moncrieff, ‘…they couldn’t apply for charitable status and London Friend was established to apply for the grants and funding required to meet the growing need for community-based services specifically tailored for gay men and lesbians. Initially the primary role of London Friend was to provide a safe space where people who had these newly found legislative freedoms could socialise, get support and meet other people. In the early days services were provided via a telephone helpline and open access groups that utilised the London Friend premises.’
Halliday is keen that the charity recognises and celebratea the struggles and achievements of the last 40 years, but also reflects that:
‘In many respects, while so much has changed for gay men and lesbians, many of the issues that London Friend was set up to deal with remain just as relevant today. For example, self-esteem continues to play a major role in people’s health and well-being. Someone experiencing low self-esteem is more likely to present with drug and alcohol issues, look for support through counselling, or may be more likely to engage in higher-risk activities that could compromise their sexual health. While there have been huge advances in terms of legal protection for LGBT people, even the most confident person’s sense of self-worth can by impacted by lingering negative attitudes – whether that’s from religious groups, politicians, the media, family or community.’
Over the years London Friend has evolved to become London’s leading health and wellbeing charity supporting the LGBT community.
Recent milestones for London Friend include the purchase of the organisation’s premises in Kings Cross; and securing substantial funding from the UK’s lottery fund to sustain and develop Antidote (the UK’s only LGBT drug and alcohol service). Today the charity employs eight staff and has 100 committed volunteers.
Moncrieff explains that this means support for LGBT people at any stage where they may be feeling vulnerable – from first coming out, to sexual identify, gender identity, relationship problems, or drug and alcohol issues.
‘We’re really looking beyond tactical interventions to a broader sense of wellbeing – where people are at a vulnerable point in their life or have maybe lost their way, to helping them to regain their self-esteem and promote healthy living.’
‘We’re very inclusive – we’ll work with anyone who is lesbian, gay, bisexual or trans. While there are obvious differences between these categories, the issues and sense of vulnerability are very similar. Building our capabilities in relation to how we can help the trans community is particularly important to us and is one of our key priorities. We expanded our services in the 80s to include services for trans people, and we’re now partners in a trans health and well-being service.’
Moncrieff supports the view that more could be done to enable London Friend to be seen as trans-positive:
‘A lot of people come to us for counselling and looking for the opportunity to talk about gender identity, what it means for them, and whether they’re ready to begin the transition journey, or express their identity in different ways. Ringing the London Friend helpline could be the first time that someone has spoken about their gender identity and then may progress from there. We would like to offer some more structured support for people undergoing a gender transition, but it’s capacity that is holding us back. We need to find ways of utilising our resources and better engaging with trans organisations.’
While building on the history and strength of the past, Halliday confirms that the charity is very much focused on the future and looking ahead to the next 40 years.
‘This is an exciting time for us – we’ve come a long way in the last few years, it’s no longer about day-to-day survival, we’ve got the capacity to think about what we want do in the long term as an organisation.’
But sustainable funding is key to that forward planning:
‘At a time when there continues to be uncertainty about funding across the entire LGBT sector, it’s difficult to know where our sector will be or what it will look like in five years or even in just one year’s time…’ says Halliday. ‘By continuing to work with a strong base of regular donors, we can build a much more sustainable foundation for the continued work of London Friend.’