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Trans man chooses death after botched surgical transition

After a childhood of neglect, a Belgian man said he 'did not want to be a monster' before asking a doctor to euthanize him
Nathan Velhelst, a 44-year-old trans man from Belgium, has chosen death after a botched surgical transition.

A trans man has chosen to be killed after his body rejected surgery to complete his transition.

Nathan Verhelst, 44, from Belgium, said he had ‘unbearable psychological suffering’ and asked a doctor to euthanize him.

On Monday afternoon (30 September), he died from a lethal injection.

Back in 2009, Verhelst started hormone therapy and had a mastectomy. Last year, he underwent surgery to construct a penis.

But when he looked in the mirror, his body was rejecting the surgery.

‘None of these operations worked as desired,’ Verhelst told a Belgian newspaper, hours before he went to die.

‘I was ready to celebrate my new birth, but when I looked in the mirror, I was disgusted with myself.

‘My new breasts did not match my expectations and my new penis had symptoms of rejection.

‘I did not want to be a monster.’

The man who carried out the lethal injection was Professor Wim Distelmans, a controversial figure who last year ended the lives of deaf twins who were going blind. Euthanasia is legal in Belgium as long as certain conditions are met.

Verhelst informed his family of his decision to die in a letter. ‘I had happy times, but the balance is on the wrong side,’ he said.

He recalled how his mother had loved his brothers, but appeared to hate him because he was born in the body of a girl.

‘While my brothers were celebrated,’ he said, ‘I got a storage room above the garage as a bedroom.

‘My mother complained, “If only you had been a boy”.’

Verhelst’s mother confirmed she had not wanted him.

‘When I saw [Nathan’s birth name] for the first time, my dream was shattered. She was so ugly. I had a phantom birth. Her death does not bother me,’ his mother told Het Laatste Nieuws newspaper.

‘I will definitely read the letter but it will be full of lies.

‘For me, this chapter is closed. Her death does not bother me. I feel no sorrow, no doubt or remorse. We never had a bond.'

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What a nasty, cold hearted waste of air space! She wanted her child gone...now he is. Goddess bless him and may his next life be one filled with love.

Wow, big surprise, a transperson ends up being a severely mentally ill person with unsatisfiable body dysmorphia

The 'mother' is the monster. She's also the one who should have been euthanized.

How horrible. I feel for him. I can not imagine being that close to having yourself as you see yourself for it to fail. HIS mother should be ashamed of herself! 1. How dare she speak ill of the dead! 2. How dare she be such a judgemental BITCH!

You have to remember the family saw this as a suicide and they were angry I'm sure so the comments the mother made were said immediately after and she was still upset.
My father killed himself and I remember I was furious with him for years afterward. It took a long time to see the pain and suffering he was going through and understand his actions.

You have to remember his mother apparently treated him like shit all his life, just for being born a girl. You don't even have to read between the lines.

You have to remember his mother apparently treated him like shit all his life, just for being born a girl. You don't even have to read between the lines.

The man WHO disbursed the fatal injection was prof Wim Distelmans, a disputable figure WHO last year complete the lives of deaf twins WHO were going blind. kill is legal in European nation as long as sure conditions area unit met. buy facebook likes

To all readers don't pay attention to jtalyor184 it is a sad excuse for a person. Anyone who holds up for a mother like this is heartless and needs killing themselves. Just another example of morons talking about something they haven no clue about but sure love hearing themselves speak. Just a waste of air and in this case, keystrokes.

<<"Verhelst’s mother confirmed she had not wanted him.

‘When I saw [Nathan’s birth name] for the first time, my dream was shattered. She was so ugly. I had a phantom birth. Her death does not bother me,’ his mother told Het Laatste Nieuws newspaper.">>

I don't know what's worse, the horrific ordeal this poor young man suffered (and what is up with Belgian doctors anyway?), or the words of his mother, the one person in all the world who was SUPPOSED TO LOVE HIM UNCONDITIONALLY.

Some people should not be allowed to breed.

I'm sitting here reading this on my oldest son's 22nd birthday and I realize how little my children's gender matters in my heart in regards to how much I love them. The genitals that formed are inconsequential! They're my whole life and I love my 2 sons and daughter beyond their gender...beyond their sexual orientation...and beyond words!
I simply don't understand the person commenting about how the mother is being demonized and how she's the victim. You choose to have a child, a child doesn't choose their parents...how then is SHE the victim? Her only role was to love that human being more than herself...and guide them towards fulfilling their true purpose on this earth. It saddens me that the only message she seemed to convey was one of rejection and failure to be the right gender! And upon hearing her child was dead, she said she felt no sorrow? Bc there was no bond? That's monstrous I don't care how you slice it.

Their was no bond because SHE, the Monster Mother did not create one. You cannot shove your child away, treat them awful and expect their to be a bond. All of it is on her ...

Totally agree!

Any parent who chooses not to love, parent, nurture, protect or accept their own flesh and blood based on gender and physical appearance is a true psychopath - plain and simple. To straight up confess that your child was not wanted or will not be missed after his death is inhuman to say the least - lacking human qualities of compassion and mercy; cruel and barbaric). May Nathan be blessed in his next life. Love to Nathan.

Quit demonizing the mother.

She had a hard enough time dealing with her daughter's decisions; and remember the daughter made her decisions right up through the end of her life.

Beat me up all you like, but stop demonizing the mother when she was the true victim in this instance.

You should really pick up a psych primer. It's called opporent conditioning. Sorry if the spelling's off. The child was conditioned to hate her sex and by extension herself. Her only chance for redemption was to become male, first mentally, then physically. That failing suicide was almost inevitable.

jtalyor184 You are just as disgusting as the mother, beat you up? I d like to do more then that. Im transgender and I didn't choose a goddamn thing you moron. I don't go through all the problems I go through because I just said one day ohhhhh starting now I want to have to deal with fucktards like you everyday. Get a clue or get off the internet, you big man sitting behind a screen. Come see me

Dear jtaylor184! I cannot agree with you. Nobody here is demonizing the mother. She has already demonized herself with her unacceptable atitude. I can understand that having a trans child is a challenge for many parents; they simply don't know how to face it. This might be an explanation but it is not an excuse. That child has grown inside you 9 months...You have expected her/him all that time. Newborn babies are not always beauties; birth is not an easy process. But to say that shae was ugly, that you had no connection to your chils and it doesn't matter that he/she died....Well, that's outrageous! You feel sorry when an animal dies, how can you be so cold and heartless to say something like that about your own child? I FEEL HURT AND SORRY for him, though he wasn't mine! I'm sorry I couldn't ease his pain. I am a total stranger. But I am a human being with a heart in the right place. I am a mother to; I know what motherhood means. I am ashamed of this woman. Don't give me this crap about she being the true victim. She's not a victim, she's a PERPETRATOR! She was responsible for her child; she rejected and mistreated him. She doesn't deserve your simpathy. She doesn't have mine. I feel only for her unfortunate child.

The rejection supposedly started at birth. The mother couldn't have known about something that would only become evident over time.

Victim? The pathetic excuse for a mother wasn't even hurt. She hated her child because she wanted a boy, so the fact that he was trans didn't change anything. His mother never would have loved him no matter what he did. As long as she saw him as a girl, she'd hate him. Nathan's mother did not have a hard time, she just didn't care. She should be demonized for being transphobic and sexist against women (especially since she's one herself). Shame on you for standing up for her, for feeling any pity for her. If you're just as transphobic as she is, you don't belong here, even if you're gay. This website is supportive of the entire LGBTQ+ community.

How in the world is the mother the victim? She's a monster, simple as that. She hated her own daughter, and felt nothing when she, now he, decided that his life wasn't worth living if he couldn't live a normal life as a man. How dare you defend an evil woman like Verhelst's mother? Shame on you.