Where’s there’s a Will, there’s a Grace, or at least that’s what a new study has supposedly found.
Published in Evolutionary Psychology, there is a reason why gay men and straight women find a ‘mutual attraction’ to each other.
Psychologists at Texas Christian University developed a fictional Facebook personality, called Jordan, and evaluated how participants related to him or her.
For the 88 straight women involved, ‘Jordan’ was either a straight man, a straight woman, or a gay man.
For the 58 gay men, ‘Jordan’ was a straight man, a gay man or a lesbian.
The fake friend’s sexuality and gender was different for each subject, but everything else about ‘Jordan’ was the same.
After getting to know Jordan by reading their profile, the subjects were asked to hypothetically imagine themselves in scenarios where their new friend would offer them dating advice.
They were then asked how trustworthy they found their fake friend’s advice, and how well their chances would be of getting a date with their help.
Eric M Russell, the lead researcher, said gay guys and straight girls connect because there are ‘uniquely trustworthy sources of social support’. In other words, they are not going after the same guy. But then, how would it work if the guy they were after was bisexual?
As Queerty’s Dan Avery notes, it is impossible to chart friendships like a chemical equation.
He said: ‘The gay man/straight woman friendship is a something of a social construct, not evolution.
‘Some gay men have close woen friends, and some do not. Some of us form close-knit relationships with girls when we’re first coming out – because we’re absolutely terrified of straight men and gay men – but then find those bonds fade as we emerge from our shells.
‘And, in 2013, many of us are making friends all across the spectrum – straight guys, gays women, the works. Imagine that.’
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Oh boy I laughed at this one and look back (not too many years) and giggle at the stages i went through.
Realising you are gay - scared of gay and straight men. Girl power helped and we spend years talking about men. Me from a gay stance and them from a straight stance. We were young!
In relationships - Boy power with girl advice and help over arguments. Cry your eyes out and support. Picking yourself back up or being told to grow up, get over him and move on. (Bitch)
Middle age (now) - Best of both worlds. Note society has changed so much over the years and I am grateful for my straight and gay male and female friends. We support each other and work at it. Also I get to love and share my straight friends kids. (Priceless)
Oh did I mention shopping - all stages.
Live well folks
At first I was very connected with woman, as teenager, and early 20's. But the more I was learning about feminism, and my relationships with woman was reveling that most are homophobic, in the sense they wouldn't like to have gay kid, for example...
But also that gay man has not enough respect for woman.
Also woman energy is very different then woman, yet gay man think they know what is woman, like in fashion, or sensibility...
so much to say about this
Jox