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Advice columnist gives perfect response to anti-gay parent

Advice columnist gives perfect response to anti-gay parent

Amy Dickinson gives the best advice

An advice columnist has delivered the most perfect response to a homophobic parent.

Amy Dickinson, who writes a syndicated advice column, has written back to the parent who wants their son to ‘stop’ being gay – and it is amazing.

Not only has this mother or father forgotten their son’s birthday for the past three years (they have a busy work schedule), they want their 17-year-old to make the ‘reasonable’ choice to be stop being gay.

Check out the letter from the parent and Dickinson’s response below:

Dear Amy:

I recently discovered that my son, who is 17, is a homosexual.

We are part of a church group and I fear that if people in that group find out they will make fun of me for having a gay child.

He won’t listen to reason, and he will not stop being gay. I feel as if he is doing this just to get back at me for forgetting his birthday for the past three years – I have a busy work schedule.

Please help him make the right choice in life by not being gay. He won’t listen to me, so maybe he will listen to you.

– Feeling Betrayed

Dear Betrayed:

You could teach your son an important lesson by changing your sexuality to show him how easy it is.

Try it for the next year or so: Stop being a heterosexual to demonstrate to your son that a person’s sexuality is a matter of choice – to be dictated by one’s parents, the parents’ church and social pressure.

I assume that my suggestion will evoke a reaction that your sexuality is at the core of who you are. The same is true for your son. He has a right to be accepted by his parents for being exactly who he is.

When you ‘forget’ a child’s birthday, you are basically negating him as a person. It is as if you are saying that you have forgotten his presence in the world. How very sad for him.

Pressuring your son to change his sexuality is wrong.

If you cannot learn to accept him as he is, it might be safest for him to live elsewhere.

A group that could help you and your family figure out how to navigate this is This organization is founded for parents, families, friends and allies of LGBT people, and has helped countless families through this challenge. Please research and connect with a local chapter.

– Amy


(Many thanks to GSN reader Justin Michael for the tip! He spotted it in the Press & Sun paper printed in Binghamton, New York. Photo credit: Nathan Butler)