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Gay and bi men are very horny but abstaining from hook-ups during lockdown

Gay and bi men are very horny but abstaining from hook-ups during lockdown

  • Couples are getting on well during the pandemic but young people are worried about their future.
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Gay, bi and trans men say they are feeling horny but still staying away from casual sex during the coronavirus lockdown.

Meanwhile most are feeling positive. But that figure varies widely from country to country with men in Britain and India far less positive than elsewhere.

Those are some of the results from a survey of 75,840 gay, bi and trans men for European-based dating platform Romeo.

It asked about health, sex and travel – but also what the men thought about their governments responses to the crisis.

Fears for the economy and the LGBT+ community

The survey found that 40% agree with the lockdown measures in their country. However, 32% felt the lockdown should have been stricter.

Moreover, men in France and the UK were least satisfied with their government’s response. 53% of French and 49% of UK men think their country should have stricter rules.

By contrast, Sweden has taken a very different approach.

It protected the economy by allowing people to go about their daily lives more normally while asking them to take individual responsibility for not spreading the virus. And 56% of gay, bi men in the country think their government got things right.

Meanwhile, the survey also revealed that men are now more worried about the economy than their health.

With transmission rates generally falling in Europe, only 43% say they are worried about their health. However, exactly half are worried for their financial future.

This spikes in India, where 73% are worried about what is to come financially. Moreover, young people, aged 18 to 25 are more worried about their financial future than those over 65.

One area people are particularly worried about is the LGBT+ community. 57% have fears for the community with many worried about small LGBT+ businesses and community organizations.

Again, levels of concern fluctuate. In the UK, people are less worried, but in Germany they are far more concerned. Meanwhile those aged 45 to 65 are the most worried while 45% of those under 35 are not worried at all.

Younger guys are leading the horniness league

Unsurprisingly for a platform like Romeo, many men have another thing on their mind too.

Four in 10 said they are very horny during lockdown. And this increases to 55% of 18 to 24-year-olds.

Again, the UK is more hot and bothered than average with 46% saying they are very horny, rising to 67% of 18 to 34-year-old Brits. Spain tops the European chart at 49% with India leading the world with 56% very horny.

Despite this, 70% are not meeting for sex dates. And 48% are dating online instead.

This varies country to country. In Germany only 61% of men are refusing hook-ups, with the figure at 62% in Sweden.

But in Italy and Spain, which have had high levels of COVID-19 deaths and tough lockdowns, the figure is 86% refusing casual sex.

Meanwhile it is even higher in the UK at 87%, with the country now topping European charts for the number of coronavirus deaths.

This ties with early data seen at the UK’s leading sexual health clinic. 56 Dean Street has seen a dramatic drop in STD rates. It is hoping men will order postal tests for sex infections and HIV before lockdown ends.

This, doctors say, presents a once in a lifetime opportunity to improve the community’s sexual health.

You can get advice on sex, hook-ups and taking break from PrEP here.

Moreover, some are not feeling horny at all. The survey found a fifth of men have lost their mojo during the pandemic. Men in the 35 to 54 age range account for nearly half of this figure. And Spanish gay and bi men are experiencing a dampening of desire the most at 40%.

Couples getting on better but holidays are on hold

Meanwhile, the research also found many couples are thriving. Of the 31,899 people with partners, 17% claim that they are getting on better than usual.

The USA and India top this at 29%, and the UK is just behind at 27%. Italy, which has experienced one of the longest periods of lockdown, is unsurprisingly behind the global average at 14%.

However, normal plans are still changing or on hold. The researchers found that most summer vacations will be close to home.

The LGBT+ travel market is usually very resilient and famously was among the first to embrace air travel after the 9-11 terror attack in 2001.

Nevertheless, 73% of people do not have plans to travel outside their country. Spain leads this at 85%. In the UK, just 29% are planning overseas holidays with 31% undecided.

And overall, 57% of the men in the survey are feeling either good or very good. 

France is leading the world positive mood with 65% placing themselves in this category. By contrast just 44% of men in the UK are positive. Meanwhile India’s spirits are the hardest hit with only 23% feeling good.

Romeo users completed the five-minute online survey between 24 April and 11 May.