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Gay dating apps' no fats, no femmes culture means I get no f**ks

'Everyone wants to f**k someone who looks like Thor – with the perfect six pack and a big penis.'

Gay dating apps' no fats, no femmes culture means I get no f**ks
Stephen Bailey is currently on tour with his show 'Can't think Straight' | Photo: Gay Star News

Gay British comedian Stephen Bailey is fed up with the way gay and bi men are talking to each other.

And while on his recent tour, has been holding a very un-scientific conversation with ‘his gays’ at the local bars.

With the help of various jugs of Woo Woo, they’ve been talking about the way gay and bi men talk to each other online and in real life – IRL.

In a new video for Gay Star News he says the culture that leads men to put ‘no fats and no femmes’ on dating app profiles means he is getting ‘no fucks:’

‘No-one would ever come up to you in a bar and say: oh hey – aubergine 🍆’

Bailey says internet culture has a big part to play in a culture of body shaming that happens in the LGBTI community.

‘Certain people that don’t have six-packs, like me, don’t always feel accepted when they go out [on the LGBTI scene]. And the issue is, now everyone wants to fuck Thor – with the perfect six pack and big penis.’

But he’s not the only one who has been highlighting body shaming in the gay community recently.

National Student Pride recently looked at the communities relationship with body confidence. They asked five young LGBTI students coming to grips with getting naked and talking about their bodies. Unsurprisingly, it was an awkward experience – but one that the students ultimately found empowering.

One student who took part Corry Wiseman says he became more positive about his body with ‘exposure therapy:’

‘Whenever I got out the shower or in my boxers in front of a mirror, I’ll just look at myself. And accept that what I see is me, and I’ve got to love it. You can’t spend your whole life hating something that you can’t really change.’

These LGBTI people want to inspire others to be confident about their bodies | Photo: National Student Pride

Corry Wiseman is one of the students who took part to inspire others to be confident about their bodies | Photo: National Student Pride

Getting naked for body positivity 

The Arrested Movement photo series has also been making waves in a similar vein, with naked photos of bear-shaped men.

The Canadian based photographer Anthony Patrick Manieri says: ‘I can remember countless times when the subject I was photographing would mention something about themselves that they didn’t like and would prefer if I could mask that specific physical insecurity.’

After researching the work of Masaru Emoto who believed that water has consciousness, that reacts to positive and negative energy. He came to the conclusion that as Adult human bodies are made up of 60% water:

‘If we body shame ourselves, or other people for that matter, it will inherently affect us on a molecular level. Our bodies can hear us, so we need to be kind to ourselves.’

For now, Bailey says we can all make a difference by just being a bit more friendly:

‘If you see someone looking awkward in the corner of a club, welcome them in, give them a hug – not just a handjob’

Stephen Bailey: ‘Can’t Think Straight’ is on tour now, including Soho Theatre, London from 3rd – 5th May 2018. Follow @stephencomedy for details

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