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Gay dad writes to the Pope: You snubbed us for Kim Davis? Really?

Gay dad writes to the Pope: You snubbed us for Kim Davis? Really?

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Last week, I invited the Pope to join my family for dinner. It was largely a symbolic gesture, although I had a house cleaning action plan and a menu picked out should he have accepted.

I wanted him to sit face to face with a family like mine. My two sons were adopted out of foster care and situations that were life-threatening.

For LGBTI parents, that’s not unique. A great number have kids who have gone from lives of potential abuse and neglect to homes where their parents love them and put them first. A Cambridge study showed, as a matter of fact, that the only family structured parenting unit that picked foster care aid as its top means of creating a family are families headed by two dads.

My point to the pope was – before you judge us, before you pontificate on how our families should not be legally or morally recognized, you can at least see what we are about.

The Pope didn’t have time for loving families like ours during his visit to America.

But he did have time to meet with Kim Davis, the county clerk who has broken the law by refusing marriage permits to same-sex couples. And he put his seal of approval on her behavior.

Here’s my new letter to him.

Dear Pope Francis,

We sat staring at the open chair at our dinner table that we had hoped would be filled by you. True, the chance that you would accept our invitation was a long shot. We were hoping you may extend some dignity to families like mine.

That hope was an even longer shot.

While in America, you gave several moving speeches. You talked of the family and how you wished young people would be inspired to start one. You talked of love and bonds – principles I live.

You left us with a sense of disappointment and betrayal.

The issue is not just that you met with Kim Davis. It is that you embraced her behavior and encouraged it. You stated, following your ‘secret’ meeting: ‘Conscientious objection is a right that is a part of every human right…

Conscientious objection must enter into every juridical structure because it is a right, a human right. Otherwise, we would end up in a situation where we select what is a right, saying, “This right, that has merit; this one does not.”’

A firefighter who believes flames are ‘an act of God’ does not have the right to let houses burn down when he has agreed to hold the hose that could douse the fire and prevent catastrophe. Your right to object does not give you the right to demean others.

Kim Davis reports that you thanked her for her ‘courage’. It makes me sad to think of defining what Kim Davis did in humiliating loving families as being ‘courageous’.

She is asking for the world around her to be forced to conform to her own narrow view. The fact that you might share her worldview does not make it legitimate to impose on others who do not.

The afterglow of your trip is gone. Bernie Sander’s tears over your forward-thinking principles have dried. It was not that you snubbed LGBTI families and fell silent in speaking on our rights, it is whom you chose to see and support instead. Salt, meet wound.

We look at your empty chair at our dinner table and realize it is small compared to the emptiness you ultimately left in our hearts, and in our hopes for you. When you were told that you had been a ‘star’ on this trip, you replied ‘how many stars have we seen go out and fall?’

Point taken.