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How gay porn completely changed my life – for the better

I was treated better in porn than in the fashion industry

How gay porn completely changed my life – for the better
Courtesy: Theo Ford
Theo Ford was scouted while working as a stylist in Paris

Three years ago I made a decision that changed my life entirely – I entered the porn industry.

I was a young stylist in beautiful Paris when a producer scouted me online. Having had a fascination for porn and actors for many years I was intrigued. I decided to meet him.

He had the kindest words and I saw instantly he was of good intentions. The case he made for me to join his studio resonated with me. Just a week later I was on my way to film my first scenes.

I never would have guessed how much this simple decision would change the rest of my life.

At first I was filming my scenes without really thinking that people would ever want to see me in a movie.

It took about six months for my scenes to start coming out. I did not see them come out and didn’t really want to see them. Maybe I was anxious about seeing myself perform to be honest.

A couple of months later reality hit. I was in France’s biggest gay magazine being named one of the world’s top 10 best newcomers in porn.

The feeling I had at that moment will forever stay with me. I was confronted with the reality of being a porn actor.

I asked myself what to do next? Stop completely and try to erase this chapter or continue porn but aim for the biggest studios out there?

Never being afraid of a challenge I chose the latter. I have never regretted that decision. It opened up a world of wonder and revelation on both a professional and personal level.

How porn stars are treated

Working in an industry where your body and image is what counts can make it difficult to feel confident and sure of who you are. You expose yourself to the public, with all the pros and cons that come with that.

Some fans put you on a pedestal whereas others will shred you to pieces at the first chance they get.

That has lead to having some rather intense hate and nasty critics. I hadn’t realized so many people are so obsessed by porn and porn stars. I guess this is the price to pay to be in this industry.

On the brighter side I have always been treated with the upmost respect in the industry. Unlike my years in fashion, I was now treated with respect and credited accordingly for my work.

Travelling across the world has also been an amazing perk. I have been blessed to meet some incredible people.

While in Los Angeles on one of my trips I met a boy, Shawn. It was love at first sight. Within three weeks we were married. It had never occurred to me it might be too fast, it simply felt right.

Throughout the hectic life I was leading, I must have somehow been longing for some sort of stability. I had now found it.

It was a personal decision that would get a huge amount of attention; both good and painfully bad. Everyone had an opinion on my decision to marry and on the marriage itself.

At this point I decided to focus on my personal life and we moved to Paris, London and finally Sydney during the course of our first year together.

I am now based in Sydney where I am learning again to be part of society somehow during my year away from filming. Simply enjoying discovering a new country and culture.

I have also been writing after getting a diploma from London City University. This degree allowed me to explore the meanders of introspective writing. And what better place to write than under the Aussie sun?

I have definitely learned to let go of wanting to control every little thing and planning way too much. Sometimes all you can do is focus on the present and handle all it throws at you in due time.

Whatever the future holds for me, I know the world has even more surprises in store.

Follow Theo on Twitter here.


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