A homophobic 90-year-old grandma sent her lesbian granddaughter an STI pamphlet and sympathy card on her wedding day.
In an agony aunt column in the California paper East Bay Times published today (18 July) an ‘unsure grandchild’ pleaded with writer Amy Dickinson for advice over what to do with the grandmother, who since asked for money from the family.
Not only did the grandmother sent the hateful presents after being invited to the ceremony, she also refused to attend.
In the letter, the grandchild sketched out the rather shaky situation within the family.
‘My 90-year-old grandmother is a truly awful human being,’ the grandchild wrote.
‘She has alienated her entire family, including her five kids and multiple grandchildren. She’s lost countless friends and ruined relationships with those around her.
‘My mother refers to her as a sociopath, and my uncles and aunts say they cannot wait for the day that she eventually passes.
‘While she’s typically invited to family functions, she has not attended in years — and honestly, we don’t miss her.’
But the tipping point was on the wedding day of the person’s sister who is a lesbian. The grandmother refused to attend and sent a sympathy card with an enclosed booklet on sexually transmitted diseases to the newlyweds.
‘At that point, I was fully done with her, as was my sister,’ they wrote.
Grandma spent her grandkids’ money on gambling
The grandchild goes onto write about how their grandmother has gone financially bust.
While her children contributed towards a monthly account, the grandchildren quickly discovered she had been spending it all on TV shopping channel purchase and casino gambling.
Moreover, they continued: ‘My mother and her siblings said the only items they will pay for now will be her moving into assisted living and her funeral, but nothing else.
‘About a week ago, my sister and I both received a letter in the mail from my grandmother pleading for money and explaining how dire her financial situation was.
‘She sent this letter to all of her grandchildren, all of whom feel the same way about her.’
Would you help your grandmother in this situation?
Dickinson offered succinct advice to the grandchild. Suggesting that the family group-together and ‘lay out with complete honesty how reprehensible her behavior has been over the years.
‘Otherwise, you could try a simple, more compassionate, but also truthful response: “Dear Gran, I received your letter.
‘I’m genuinely sorry you are in this position. Unfortunately, I cannot be part of your solution.
‘I hope you find peace during this part of your life. Every person deserves that, and I want that for you, too.”‘