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Bisexual mom falls for sperm donor 12 years after giving birth to his child

Bisexual mom falls for sperm donor 12 years after giving birth to his child

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A bisexual woman from Seattle has fallen in love with sperm donor after giving birth to his child.

Jessica Share had her daughter Alice through a sperm donor in 2005, when she became ‘the first lesbian parent I had ever met’.

She was married to a woman and the two planned to have four children together.

However, Share’s marriage ended in 2010, right when her partner was carrying their second daughter, with the same sperm donor.

Share was ready to bring up her two daughters as a single parent. Little did she know she was about to fall in love with her daughter’s sperm donor, whom she only knew as Donor No. 2008 at the Fairfax Cryobank.

Falling in love with her sperm donor

The woman met Aaron Long in 2017 – 12 years after giving birth to his child.

The two have now moved in together with Alice and several of the kids Long has fathered throughout his life.

‘I felt like I had been watching him for over a decade,’ Share said.

‘I had these threads of him. This wasn’t what made the bond, but it certainly made him very familiar to me because he right away looked and acted like people I had known and loved for a decade.’

Long had signed up to give sperm after returning to the US from a year teaching English abroad.

‘One day I saw a newspaper ad seeking healthy men, 18 to 35, to participate in a semen donation program,’ he told The Mirror.

Furthermore he added: ‘Donors’ is the standard industry word, yet virtually all of us are paid. Forty dollars (£32) a pop was what I received in 1994. I applied to sell my sperm and sold twice weekly for a year. At the time I was in a long-distance relationship, so this seemed like a good outlet. When I told my mother, she presciently wondered aloud if this was the only way she was going to have grandchildren.’

Share and her wife separated in 2010

When Share and her then-wife decided on whose sperm to choose, they were attracted by Long’s professions.

‘The donor listed his profession as a writer, musician, and taxi driver,’ she recalled.

‘My wife and I romantically imagined he was refusing to get a desk job, but instead collecting the stories of those he’d pick up in his cab, readying to write the Great American Novel,’ Jessica explained.

After trying to get pregnant for seven months, the couple finally received the news they had longed for.

‘I was pregnant with our first child and my wife, and I were overjoyed.’

She never thought she would meet the donor, let alone fall in love with him.

‘We gave hardly a thought to the donor that we assumed we would never meet. My wife was particularly hostile to the idea of ever letting our children know him – she felt that love made a family, and I agreed.’

When Alice was three, Jessica’s wife left her. After a few years, she explains her ex-wife cut off their eldest child entirely.

Moreover, her youngest daughter failed to be returned from a holiday. Jessica hasn’t seen her ever since.

Alice says they’re not a family

When Alice became curious about her biological father, her mom bought the 23andMe PGS test. The results show Aaron Long was a 50% match as the father.

Jessica reached out to Long and the two exchanged messages on social networks. A few months later, Jessica and Alice moved into Long’s building when they were looking for a new place to stay. After meeting in person, Jessica and Aaron started dating.

The pair got on so well they moved in together with Alice and another of Long’s biological daughter.

Nonetheless, Alice doesn’t see Long as a father figure.

‘We’re definitely not a family. This is not the nuclear ‘Brady Bunch’ thing,’ Alice said.

‘You can’t just adopt someone as your dad, despite what chick flicks say.’

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