In a video showing a boy breaking into tears halfway through his martial arts test, the teacher-in-charge gives a surprising response.
Instructor Shärath Jason Wilson of ‘The Cave of Adullam Transformational Training Academy‘ was standing on the side as one of his students attempted to break a wooden board with his punches.
However, in the midst of it, the boy started to cry.
Instead of chiding or shaming the child, Wilson knelt down beside him and asked what’s the reason for his tears.
‘It’s OK to cry,’ Wilson comforted the boy. ‘We cry as men. Why are you crying though, son?’
The boy then answered that it’s painful for him to punch the board with his left hand.
‘You know in life there is going to be things harder than other things?’ the instructor replied. ‘And you know those things that may appear to be hard to do, you’re going to have to do it as a man, regardless? And it’s gonna take tears… you’ll sweat to break through it. You understand?’
Watch the inspiring moment here:
This clip is important as it challenges us to relook at the things we tell boys and the values we teach them.
Boys are often told that they are not allowed to cry, but would keeping one’s emotions suppressed make one a better man?
Speaking to BuzzFeed, Wilson warned about teaching our kids a ‘false sense of masculinity.’
‘Men are humans and it’s OK to cry, but never give up when facing adversity. During these perverse times, it’s truly vital that we, the men and fathers of this generation, do not allow our boys to grow up with a false sense of masculinity like many of us did,’ he said.
Last week, Liam Hackett wrote an important piece for GSN about why ‘we must raise a generation of guys who talk about their feelings and cry at movie.’
In it, Hackett explains:
‘When a young guy shows emotion and a peer tells him to ‘man up’, he learns being emotional is bad and starts to respond with aggression.
‘That aggression is praised as a masculine ideal and so the young guy grows up to resent anything that could be considered “feminine” about him.
‘The resentment grows into a disregard for femininity and then ultimately females.
‘That’s the key to fixing misogynistic opinions. To eradicate misogyny, we must empower men to be themselves.’