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A mother's son came out to her, so she called a gay bar for advice

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A mother's son came out to her, so she called a gay bar for advice
Kara Coley, a bartender, helped the mother. | Photo: Facebook/Kara Coley

A Mississippi mother wasn’t sure what to do when her son came out to her. So she decided to call a gay bar for advice.

As first reported by Gay Times, Kara Coley, an employee at the nightclub Sipps in Gulfport, Mississippi, told the story on Facebook.

And it’s one that’s making people smile from all over.

So I got the most random phone call at the bar tonight! 😀Me:Good evening Thankyou for calling Sipps!Lady on phone: Is…

Posted by Kara Coley on Friday, January 19, 2018

As explained by Coley, this is how the conversation went down.

Coley: Good evening, thank you for calling Sipps!

Lady on phone: Is this a gay bar?

Coley: Well, we are an everybody bar but yes, mostly gay.

Lady: Can I ask you a question?

Coley: Sure.

Lady: Are you gay?

Coley: YES MA’AM

Lady: What was the one thing you wanted from your parents when you came out?

Coley: Umm

Lady: My son just came out to me and I don’t want to say anything that may mess him up in the head.

Coley: Well, I think that you should just make sure he knows that you love and accept — wait, do you accept it?

Lady: Yes, if that’s what he wants.

Coley: You should definitely let him know that you love and accept him! I think everything will be ok from there!

Lady: Okay, well, thank you.

Coley: You are very welcome and good luck!

At the end of her post, Coley writes she’s been a bartender in gay bars for 17 years and this was a first for her.

Acceptance goes a long way

Coming out stories are a staple of the community. This mother’s simple act of reaching out for help, based on the love for her son, is heartwarming.

There are plenty of fears in coming out, from not being accepted to being bullied.

In fact, according to the Human Rights Campaign, 4 in 10 LGBTQ youth say they live in a community that is not accepting. A further 26% say their biggest problems in life are not being accepted by their family, bullying, and a fear to openly be themselves.

However, HRC also reports that LGBTQ youth who are out to their immediate families report being happier than those who aren’t.

This mother in Mississippi is a shining example that asking for help is okay, and that children deserve support.

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