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Read this gay man’s letter to the family who disowned him and his dad’s hate-filled reply

Read this gay man’s letter to the family who disowned him and his dad’s hate-filled reply

Same-sex marriage could be coming to Chile

It is true that sometimes parents do not deserve the own children they raise.

This is definitely true for one gay man who was disowned by his Christian parents when he came out to them three years ago.

Posting on Reddit, B.G. said he met his boyfriend shortly after coming out. In April, his boyfriend proposed to him.

‘I haven’t talked with my parents much since first coming out to them, what little I did always turned ugly fairly quickly, so I knew that my parents would never approve, but I had to at least tell them that the wedding was happening,’ he said.

So he wrote them a letter.

I hope this letter finds you well. I love you and miss you dearly. I am writing this letter to tell you about what has happened over the last three years.

 

Three years ago I came out to you as gay. This was not out of rebellion, malice, or because of the influence of some carnal world. This was the result of years of careful introspection about my life, my feelings, and my happiness. I knew that the result of my coming out would cause a deep and lasting division between myself and my family, which I deeply regret, but I absolutely do not regret my decision to come out to you. I know that nothing I can say will change your minds about this, so I won’t try. Instead I would like to share with you the happiness that I have found.

 

Three years ago, I met someone who took my breath away. This person was incredibly kind, caring, handsome, and smart. We hung out together with friends for several months, and our friendship grew closer until we were talking to each other every day. We started dating, and I realized that there was something extraordinarily special about this person. I was becoming a better, stronger person as we grew closer. We moved in together one year after we met. Every day, our bond grew stronger. Together we learned how to complement our strengths and weaknesses, and we fell deeper in love. We shared amazing adventures as another year went by. We traveled, found jobs, met and reconnected with family; we grew together as a couple. It didn’t take much longer to realize there was no other person I would rather spend the rest of my life with. A few months ago, B. K. asked me to marry him; I said yes, and ever since, I have been so filled with joy, that I cannot stop smiling.

 

I do not expect you to approve of my relationship with B. I do not expect you to come to our wedding next year. Maybe someday you would be willing to meet him and reconnect our families, but until then I hope you can wish us happiness and prosperity knowing that when I am with B, I am the best and happiest person I’ve ever been.

With Love,

B.G.

His dad responded, saying: ‘What do you plan on doing about your name?’

B.G said: ‘My name will be B. A. K. G’, so taking his fiance’s last name K as a middle name.

His dad then said: ‘My name was NEVER to be given to another man. Only to a Godly female as your wife. You are the last G male and I will NOT have my name associated with this “marriage”. I do not want it hyphenated with another man’s name either. Just remove it entirely and let my legacy die with me.’

Reflecting on the message he got from his dad, B.G. said: ‘So that’s it then. I couldn’t believe the hatred that was being directed toward me.

‘I’m done trying to be nice to them. I don’t care any more. I get to marry and spend the rest of my life with the man I love, and that “marriage” will be just as real as his “marriage” is now.

‘I don’t need my parents or my last name. It’s amazing, I don’t really feel sad about this. It feels more like a heavy burden has been lifted off of me, and I can move on now.

‘My blood family doesn’t have to support me, because the family of friends I have gained after coming out is bigger, better, and loves me for who I am no matter what.

‘My wedding is going to be a party filled with people who love and support me, and I can’t wait to celebrate starting a new family with the man I love.’

Good for you B.G! Have an amazing wedding.