- Singer also reveals how they were kicked off a dating app which assumed they were a Sam Smith impersonator.
Sam Smith has opened up on what it feels like to be non-binary and on their struggle to find love.
The singer-songwriter, 28, came out as gay in 2014 before saying they were genderqueer in 2017. In 2019, they described themselves as non-binary and asked people to use ‘they’ and ‘their’ pronouns for them.
Smith has also been open in the past about struggling with body issues. But now they have talked about how their body’s feminine characteristics. In an interview with The Times, Smith said:
‘I have always been non-binary. I have always felt the way I’ve felt, and just hearing other non-binary stories made me suddenly feel seen.
‘As I started to address that, I started to address my gender and realized that I was holding myself to ideals of how a man should look.
‘I have girl’s thighs and I have girl breasts too. It started to awaken this conversation that had always been in the back of my mind.’
Moreover, Smith says they wore women’s clothing and make-up to school as a child. Fortunately, their parents were fully aware and supportive of them doing this.
And in a comment which may make some people feel better after an awkward slip of the tongue with a non-binary person, Smith has also admitted they have sometimes made a mistake over pronouns.
‘They thought I was a catfish pretending to be me’
Meanwhile the singer is still unlucky in love. Back in May, Smith said they were looking for love and hoping to meet an older man. The singer apparently wants to have children by the time they reach 34.
Smith last had a serious relationship with actor Brandon Flynn, 26. But the pair broke up in June 2018 after nine months together.
Speaking on Watch What Happens Live With Andy Cohen, they said:
‘I’m still single, I’m on the front line with all the single people still and it’s been difficult. I’ve gone on all the apps and stuff.’
Indeed, they have previously used exclusive celebrity dating app Raya, where other users are rumored to include Ben Affleck, Channing Tatum, Cara Delevingne, Emma Watson and Tom Felton.
However, Smith struck a comical problem when they tried another dating app – Hinge.
They told Cohen: ‘They chucked me off of it after one night because they thought I was a catfish prtetending to be me.’
After the interview, Hinge got in touch, offering to verify Smith for the future.
Meanwhile they told The Times that love can easily slip through your fingers:
‘I’m not looking, but I am hoping. It is like wading through water and trying to catch a fish with your bare hands. I am just sitting by the side of the pond now.’
Smith is famous for hits including Money On Your Mind and Dancing With A Stranger.
They won the Academy Award, and a Golden Globe, in 2016 for their James Bond Spectre theme, The Writing’s On The Wall. At the time, Smith famously dedicated the Oscar to the LGBT+ community.