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Sean Hayes opens up about his mom's heartbreaking reaction when he first came out

'It’s so cliché that it was during Thanksgiving weekend'

Sean Hayes opens up about his mom's heartbreaking reaction when he first came out
It wasn't a great holiday. | Photo: IMDB/Dimitrios Kambouris

In a new interview with PEOPLE, Will & Grace actor Sean Hayes opened up about his own coming out story.

‘It’s so cliché that it was during Thanksgiving weekend,’ he told the magazine. It was 1988 and he was 18.

His mother didn’t take the news well.

‘My mom said I needed to go see a therapist. She wrote me a 10-page letter, both sides on legal pad size paper. “This is not what God …” You know, the whole uneducated view of it.’

However, things got better between them over time.

‘She became educated and had friends who [were] gay people,’ he said. ‘She was like, “Oh I see. You’re just like me,” and all that. It became fine and wonderful, and then she became so supportive and awesome.’

Hayes didn’t come out publicly in 2010. He married composer Scott Icenogle in 2014.

It took him time to come out because in 1986 ‘being gay then was different’, but now he’s glad for the changing times.

‘If you don’t have the words to explain it to your family, you can say, “Like Will & Grace,” or “Like Ellen DeGeneres,” or whosever out in a public. There’s so many more examples now to help people and give them tools to communicate to kids and their families that being gay is as normal as being straight. There’s no difference.’


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