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Who knew sharing sex stories with others could be so liberating?

Who knew sharing sex stories with others could be so liberating?

People in London share their sex and drugs stories at this monthly, open mic event

‘Let’s talk about gay sex and drugs’ is a monthly open mic night that began in London.

The rules are simple: Everyone has five minutes to talk, respect the speaker and keep the space safe.

Its roots lie in offering people an opportunity to talk about ‘party and play’, chillouts and high and horny culture – without stigma or shame.

The event’s format is spreading around the world. New events have started in Manchester and Berlin in recent months.

It’s all in a direct response to chemsex: the use of drugs to enhance sex.

However, a new YouTube documentary series looks at how the London night has become so much more than that:

You can watch the whole series on the 56 Dean Street YouTube. But in an exclusive first look at the series, Gay Star News pull’s together just some of the reasons why these brave Let’s Talkers come back month after month to share honest, inspiring and beautiful stories about the sex they have.

David Stuart

Let’s Talk Co-Founder on why he set the event up: ‘My community was a place where I felt like I didn’t belong, where I felt like I had to take drugs to fit in. It was somewhere I got rejected. And that was hell.’

Nash Sithole

Poet and Manchester Let’s Talk organizer: ‘I had no drive, no ambition, there was nothing going on in my life. This night helped me realize my potential and what I have to offer the world. Now I’m studying a law degree’

Pat Cash

Let's Talk about gay sex and drugs documentary

Writer and Let’s Talk Co-Founder: ‘We criminalized drugs for the past century, so all those issues come with all these narratives around dehumanizing the people involved. When you make something criminal you make people not want to talk about the issues.

‘What we’re doing is cutting through the sensationalism and media reporting. It takes this “deep dark shameful thing” and gets people to talk honestly about issues that affect their lives. It makes them feel part of a stronger community.’

Siân Docksey

Comedian: ‘The interesting thing about performing here is you can be like, “So I was thinking about group sex, but the thing is you always get a cold after” – and people are like ‘yeah totally’… but at other London open mic nights its like 20 white guys giving out casual sexism, homophobia, and racism.

‘Whereas here you go up and say, “so guys: fisting” … And, well, you can communicate aspects of your lived experience here.’

Manny Wongkaew

Let's Talk about gay sex and drugs documentary

Creative style consultant: ‘I learned how destructive using drugs as a coping mechanism to feel better about sex was. For my race not to be relevant, or my look – I always suffered a lot in silence.’

Denholm Spurr

Actor: ‘I think not talking about it gave it a power over me. That made me return to it every week and seem like something controlling my life. But as soon as you speak about it, the power lessens.’

Katie Evans

Counselor: ‘You hear a lot about intimacy and wanting to connect with people. But people want to know how – and as much as I help people with that in counseling it’s only in nights like this and meeting people allows you to connect and find your identity by relating to people around you – by feeling you are not alone.’

Michael Hammond

Let’s Talk Speaker: ‘I’ve spoken nine or ten times and every time I’ve done it, I’ve felt accepted. I do it because I want my stories to help someone else out too.’

Vanity Von Glow

Drag Queen: ‘I’m a big fan of thinking, which I try to do at least once a day… so the key thing about Let’s Talk is it’s an opportunity to talk and exchange ideas. So there’s cabaret, but there is also an audience who have come with their heads switched on.’

Matthew Todd

Journalist and author of the book, Straight Jacket: ‘I think addiction and problematic drug use comes from shame – and shame is about keeping yourself hidden. The opposite of shame is what you need to get over these things. So talking about things in the open is so hugely important.’

Serenza Falzon and Jay Junior

Serenza, ‘Gay scene matriarch’: ‘Just hearing someone speak and talk about all the things we’ve spoken about as friends, that you didn’t know other people were hearing. One person got up and spoke and we went “we’ve done this, that’s us” – and it’s just that realisation, that you are not alone.’

Jay, Chef: ‘It’s a safe space, if you have any problems you can always come here.’

Find out more about Let’s Talk about Gay Sex and Drugs. Their next event is on 5 October on the theme of ‘Grindr.’

This article is part of the Gay Star News Chemsex Series. Read more stories, support and see the videos on our chemsex section.