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Three gay porn stars explain how their ‘three-way marriage’ works

Three gay porn stars explain how their ‘three-way marriage’ works

Could you be in a three-way marriage (and also do porn?)

Some people can barely make one marriage work, never mind one that involves three people.

These three guys are very committed to their relationship. They speak fondly of the day they can raise kids together. They’re also gay porn stars.

When I met Alex, 21, Bradford, 28, and Bruce, 35, at Pride, I wasn’t quite sure what I was expecting.

Porn stars tend to come in different flavors. They can be party junkies or glorified dumb models, but these three weren’t that at all.

The three are business-minded, focusing on the growth of their flourishing amateur porn careers. They say they barely drink and don’t do drugs. But they all still laugh and they joke and they clearly all have very high sex drives.

Bruce, the oldest, is quieter than the other two. He’s the ‘anchor’ of the three. He has a government job so he declined to be interviewed or be pictured for this article. You can tell, however, how proud he is of his two partners.

Bradford, who’s porn name is TattTwink, is chatty, eloquent, and socially aware. Alex, also known as Blake Grey, is mature despite his young age. He speaks when he wants his truth to be known.

How did the three married porn stars meet?

Bruce and Bradford married six years ago, having met when Bradford was 19 on Plenty of Fish. Three years ago, when they wanted to open up their relationship, they met Alex on Grindr. Alex, at the time, also happened to have been 19. What started off as friendly sex progressed when the two went away, leaving Alex to look after their dogs. Alex never left, and just moved in.

‘Sex is work for us,’ Bradford told Gay Star News.

‘That’s why we looked for something more personal than an open relationship. Having a third party in our life has brought us so much. It helps our dynamic.’

Bradford, who does the most video work out of the three, said he has worked on how he communicates with his partners.

‘I show them everything I do in my porn business,’ he said. ‘They express everything they do. It’s important to have complete transparency.

‘If you can’t be open and honest about everything, it’s not going to work for you. I have nothing to be ashamed about and I know they support me 100%.’

The three run across three generations. All love games and pop culture, but often they have different touchstones and things they know or like.

‘No one’s given us a hard time with the age thing,’ Bradford said, including his and Alex’s parents in this. ‘It’s so common now. It’s not as taboo anyway.’

Alex said he didn’t feel pressured by the idea he was entering into a relationship that involved a married couple.

‘I looked at them as one unit,’ he said. ‘They left a lot up to me. They kept saying the ball is in your court.’

‘I think we’d all be great parents’

A lot of people assume Bradford and Alex are extremely promiscuous.

‘A majority of three-way groups are in it for the companionship and the sense of family. It’s the family aspect that appeals to us the most,’ Bradford said.

‘If one day there’s children involved, I think we’d all be great parents.’

Alex agreed.

‘Polyamory is more closed. It’s about the family aspects. If you wanted to be promiscuous, you’d just have an open relationship. Poly is more about the emotional side of it.’

Bruce and Bradford have discussed divorce to make Alex feel more ‘equal’ to them. They have looked at other options like getting Alex’s name on insurance papers.

For now, all wear a similar obsidian black ring.

‘I think of him the same as my husband,’ Bradford said.

‘The pie is split three ways’

Alex said: ‘They’ve done as much as possible feel like I’m equal. And I feel that way. The pie is split three ways.’

The throuple publish their porn content on Xtube.

‘As an amateur, you have a lot more control,’ Bradford said. ‘If you’re doing a video with me, then you’re going to be bringing your test results. You’re in charge of all that.

‘A lot of younger performers who are not experienced get sought out by all the same people. It seems exciting at the time. But you can get into the trap when you’re leaving everything in their hands.’

The only time the throuple typically have condomless sex is when they’re having sex with each other. They’re all versatile.

Three-way marriage means a lot of threesomes…

And so, why not ask the experts on advice about threesomes?

‘Make sure everyone’s included,’ Bradford advised. ‘If one person feels like they’re not as involved, then the whole dynamic will feel like one person is watching. That’s fine if that’s what you want.’

Alex said: ‘You have to make yourself involved too. If two of you are going hard at it, then get yourself up and get behind another person.’

‘Yeah, stick your butt in their face,’ Bradford laughed. ‘There’s more than one hole in the body.’

‘You’ve got to have fun,’ Alex replied back.

‘It’s a lot like relationships,’ Bradford said. ‘Give everyone enough attention and make sure you’re having a great time.’

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