In a honest and candid op-ed for the Harpers Bazaar, 15-year-old transgender activist Jazz Jennings gives us an inside look at her dating life and what she thinks about finding true love for herself.
The Florida-native who is the star of TLC’s ‘I Am Jazz’ came out in 2007 during an interview with Barbara Walters on national TV.
She has since become a spokesperson for transgender kids and youths and the community.
In her Harpers Bazaar piece, Jennings shares her frustration with being avoided by most boys.
‘Let’s face it, your average straight cis-gender teenage boy isn’t going to pursue a relationship with a trans-girl,’ she writes. ‘Even if he does find her attractive, it could be social suicide if he acts on his feelings.’
She adds: ”I know for a fact that there are some boys who don’t mind dating girls with male genitalia, but the majority won’t. Boys flirt and hug my friends, but they just whisk by me as if I don’t exist.’
Jennings explains that she wouldn’t mind dating a trans boy, but the problem is that there aren’t many out trans teenagers in her local social circle.
‘I’d love to meet a cute trans-boy who will be my true love, or possibly my soul mate. However, the dating pool is less than limited, because I’m the only “out” transgender girl in my school,’ she says. ‘I feel that there are others lurking, some may be stealth, while others just aren’t ready to come out.’
However, the light at the end of the tunnel appeared when an old friend of hers got in contact with her again.
‘Then unexpectedly, I get a text from an old friend. Not just any friend, but a guy friend,’ she writes.
Apparently that cis-gender boy was her ‘boyfriend’ when they were kids in elementary school.
Jennings describes: ‘He knew I was trans, but didn’t care. Our moms played matchmaker and before I could object he was my boyfriend. We held hands. We went to the fair and to the movies. We giggled a lot, and had fun on our “playdates.” We peck-kissed a couple of times.’
In the end, the two decided to meet up again, and Jennings was nerve-wracked, as many of us were on our first dates.
‘I was apprehensive. This wasn’t supposed to happen to me and I was out of my comfort zone. Part of me wanted to crawl under a boulder but part of me was curious. Do I dare to leave myself vulnerable? I was afraid of getting hurt.’
Is he the Prince Charming she’s been waiting for?
You can read the full story at Harper’s Bazaar.