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Trans student banned from Tinder to protect the 'safety' of bigots who reported her

'It just really pisses me off that I turn to online dating as a safer way to meet men but that’s not even available'

Trans student banned from Tinder to protect the 'safety' of bigots who reported her
Tahlia was banned from Tinder

A trans woman was banned from Tinder in order to protect the ‘safety’ of the bigots who mass-reported her account.

Tahlia, a 23-year-old trans student in Austin, was told she had ‘broken’ the dating app’s terms and conditions ‘in some way’.

Trans people still getting kicked off Tinder

Tinder offers the option of choosing from multiple genders. This was prompted after many trans people reported getting banned in 2016.

The self-proclaimed most popular dating app in the world said they had worked with GLAAD on their new policy. This policy includes ‘welcoming transgender people and to not stand for bullying or harassment on the app’.

But it appears the issues have continued.

Numerous transphobic men had reported Tahlia’s account, resulting in her being permanently banned.

Trans people need to use online dating for safety reasons

Tahlia, who has asked us to not include her last name, had gone on Tinder because she feels online dating is the only safe way for trans women to date.

‘I would be absolutely terrified to meet a man at a bar or in public and have to tell him that I’m trans while in person,’ she told Gay Star News.

‘I’m sure I don’t need to tell you the murder statistics for trans women, but being prepared for men to become violent over our transness is a part of our daily life.’

So Tahlia made it clear. She wrote on her profile she’s trans and been taking hormones for about two years.

Receiving transphobia on Tinder

‘I tell them if they’re not interested then to either swipe left or unmatch and move on,’ she said.

‘I also ask them to treat me as they would any other woman, with respect. Not to ask invasive questions and to please be somewhat educated on trans people.’

But then guys would swipe right anyway. Tahlia has received ‘countless’ transphobic messages: Some ignorant and invasive at best, some vitriolic and hateful at their worst.

And on 1 December, she received an error message.

Getting banned from Tinder

When she Googled it, it turned out she had been banned.

In emails seen by GSN, a Tinder spokesperson told her: ‘Your account has been removed and banned from Tinder for violating our Terms of Service or Community Guidelines in some way.

‘The safety of our users is very important to us.

‘You will not be able to create a new Tinder profile using your Facebook account and/or phone number.’

Tahlia knew she had been made a target.

Is Tinder siding with transphobes?

She believes Tinder is making it harder for trans women to use online dating.

‘It just really pisses me off that I turn to online dating as a safer way to meet men but that’s not even available,’ she added.

‘To add insult to injury, Tinder tries to portray themselves as trans inclusive with all of their gender options (which are important don’t get me wrong) but at the end of the day if they don’t follow through with support it just ends up putting a target on our backs and allows them to call themselves “allies” without actually doing anything.’

Tinder co-founder is ‘supporting’ trans people – but is he doing enough?

Tahlia is receiving support from the highest ranks of Tinder – co-founder Jonathan Badeen.

He messaged her on Twitter asking if she had ‘used the multiple gender option’. He said this helps ‘with prioritization’ to make sure trans people don’t get banned.

When she said that she had done this, he did not respond.

Tahlia said: ‘Until he actually takes care of this, and the issue is taken care of on a large scale (not just my personal issue) I won’t be happy.’

UPDATE: A Tinder spokesperson told GSN: ‘At Tinder, we take our community guidelines and user reports seriously.

‘Please note that while we cannot share details regarding specific users or investigations, all users are held to the same standards and are removed from Tinder if they violate our community guidelines/terms of use.’


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