Years & Years’ Olly Alexander has revealed he had had sexual experiences with a straight classmate at school.
The gay British pop star was speaking openly about his sex education and how he was left clueless at a young teen.
He was speaking at Student Pride’s Sex Education panel alongside trans advocate Paris Lees and National AIDS Trust’s Deborah Gold.
‘I fell in love with a guy who was a year above me at school. He was straight. I think a lot of straight guys experiment at school, I don’t think it means anything.
‘I thought he was in love with me too…but it turns out nothing came of it. We used to fool around at 14 or 15.’
Alexander also revealed he felt like, because he wasn’t given a proper sex education, that he was ‘abused’ by guys who were older than him.
‘I had a few experiences with older guys I realize now that I was taken advantage of,’ he said. ‘I was desperate for the attention, the relationship. I was desperate for education.’
He said he was taught by his form tutor, who had never had sex, who advised abstinence-only.
The Years & Years singer said the first time he had even learned about gay sex was from Channel 4 show Queer As Folk.
‘Gay people didn’t exist in our sex education. I had no idea how men even had sex with men. The first time I saw it was on Queer As Folk, and when a guy spat into the hand I couldn’t believe it. It just wasn’t spoken about. It was hidden away. You could only guess just by talking with friends.’
But as he got older, because he didn’t have an education, he began to have a ‘huge anxiety’.
‘I had a huge anxiety about getting HIV. I don’t know where that came from, I just didn’t have a positive relationship about sex for a long time,’ Alexander added.
And now, as a pop star with fans around the world, it’s only recently he has been evolving in his personal development with both sex and relationships.
‘When I’m holding a guy’s hand, and I really like him, and we’re in public. I’m still scared. I still look around,’ Alexander said. ‘I still have a lot to work on.’
A recent study found 95% of people had received no reference to LGBTI as part of their sex education at all.
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